By Julia Scheinbeim
In the sex ed community, I think we can all agree that sexual assault prevention is a key piece of sexual health. And how do you prevent sexual assault? Well it’s a complex issue tied up in gender roles, sexual scripts, and discomfort with communication during a sexual encounter, but at the core of respectful sex is the concept of consent. Unfortunately, there’s not a whole lot of resources out there to help us educate about how to actually “do” consent in real life. Without providing good models of what consent can and should look like in a variety of situations, just telling young people that consent is important won’t get us very far. To help in this effort, Planned Parenthood Federation of America developed a series of four videos that model consent in different situations:
1. How Do You Know if Someone Wants to Have Sex with You?
2. When You Know They’re Into It
3. When They’re Kinda Into It
4. When They’re Just Not Into It
These videos are geared for older teens and young adults (17-22). The videos are different from most of what is available on this topic in that they address both verbal and non-verbal cues. They also show a range of people and relationships, with different gender expressions, sexual orientations, races and ethnicities to make them more relatable to a wide audience. We encourage sex educators working with older high school and college-age youth to incorporate the videos into their work. And of course, we want to make it easy for you to include these videos in your in-person sex education, so we also developed two lesson plans that use these videos. One lesson plan is totally focused on consent. The other uses the videos to facilitate discussion about media literacy and how sexual communication is (or isn’t) portrayed in pop culture. Have any questions or want the lesson plans that go along with these videos? E-mail firstname.lastname@example.org.